Do what you love

June 28, 2017

Whether we realize it now, or take a hundred lifetimes of trial and error, the message is to follow your loves.

The things you absolutely cannot stop doing (and I don’t mean watching porn).

For me that was building websites.

I remember we got our first computer back in the early 90s. Then somehow I stumbled onto websites that taught html. I can build my own site from scratch?! Only using a notepad?? Amazing!

I must’ve spend all day and night for years learning all the little intricacies. I simply could not stop.

Once you know how to make a website though, you gotta do something with it. That’s where the error in trial and error came along.

I made a personal website, imitating a late night curmudgeon sports radio guy from chicago. He had Bum of the Week. So I did bum of the week, but with people I didn’t like in school.

The word must’ve gotten back to the bums, even though it was a personal private website with no marketing at all, some wise guy tricked me into revealing my personal information. The oldest trick in the book, used flattery to get my deets.

The next day, in the school library, my friends and I shockingly discovered that my lil site had been hacked and replaced with a giant picture of a naked husky lady, spread eagle!

Lesson learned.

Then I went thru different phases. Made a tupac website even though I was a biggie fan. (I went after the clicks.)

Made a website reporting on wrestling, but I just copied and pharaphrased reports from other sites. I of course didn’t have any insider info.

Made a website drop shipping things. Another attempt at following what I thought I should do, to make money, rather than following what I love.

But what did I love?
I had no idea.

Then I started another site with a friend, because I didn’t want to do a solo expedition, talking about dumb stuff, as guys do. He didn’t keep up and we quit.

I made a bunch of affiliate marketing websites that made a good amount of money, but I simply couldn’t stand working on them any longer.

Eventually I started this blog, back in 2011, not following my love, but to solve a challenge. Losing weight. I read that if you hold yourself publicly accountable, ie thru a blog, that would help.

That didn’t really work either but it was better than nothing.

Over the years, I wrote about random things, trial and error, and surprisingly many people commented and emailed me (!) saying they love my stuff and some even changed their lives! Whaaaa?

The blog posts I thought would get the most clicks, because I wrote for the crowd, were not popular at all.

The things I thought nobody would care about, but I just couldn’t stop the urge to share, became super popular.

(I assumed no one would care about the things that interested me because literally no family or friend was into the same stuff. They would look at me with a sideye or act like I was crazy. A swan raised by a bunch of ducks, I guess.)

That’s how I discovered that sharing what I love is ok and fun and even rewarding.

Only lately, and I do mean lately, am I discovering what I love.

I love the things I eat mentally. That happens to be anything that improves my life. The things that nourish my soul. The little tips and tricks to the game of life.

So here we are.
And I’m just getting started!

You can take the easy way or the long scenic route like I did, it doesn’t matter, but eventually those paths will lead to your loves.

(Or maybe you’ll die pleasing the crowd and realize this lesson in your next lifetime. Because I’m pretty sure this isn’t my first go around at all of this.)

PS:
The scenic route also has its perks. It’s much more, well, scenic. Pleasurable. Like slow cooking a delicious meal vs popping it in the microwave.

“Not all who wander are lost.”
– J. R. R. Tolkien