Following your bliss

May 28, 2017

How to follow your bliss
This took me a long while to understand and then even longer to implement. Sometimes we understand a thing intellectually but forget to do it in the heat of the moment.

If you listen to Bashar or Abraham Hicks or even Joseph Campbell, they all say follow your bliss. Bashar says that you should choose your highest excitement at every single moment. But what does that exactly mean?

In a practical sense this is how it’s done.
Often you’ll be reading a book that’s a classic but it’s a hard read. Or it doesn’t click for you. You know you should read it, so you power through. That’s NOT following your highest excitement. Like Ray Bradbury says, if you pick up a book and don’t immediately feel the excitement and joy, put it away and move on.

Do you ever have a chipped drinking glass that you just don’t want to throw out? Even though you feel like tossing it, your mental mind convinces you that you need to be wise and frugal. That’s NOT following your bliss.

The same goes for clothes that are old or even newish but you just don’t feel like wearing anymore. It sits in the bottom of your basket and you wear anything but that. That’s NOT following your joy, like Marie Kondo, the clutter clearing expert from Japan, says. Toss out the nonessential things that don’t spark joy. You may be obliged to hold onto your tax papers, but tossing out those old ratty shorts are just fine.

Often you’ll be in a conversation and it starts to go sour.
The person starts complaining and you can feel it right away. Yet, you don’t want to be rude, so you listen, and even try to cheer that person up. That’s NOT following your highest joy. The proper thing to do is to be selfish and change the conversation to something lighter, or just get up and walk away. Yet, most of us will never do that.

I saw a clip with Jerry Seinfeld where he was talking to a female comedian who started talking about her depression and he immediately changed the subject to something else, about the eggs or coffee or something. It was abrupt and awkward to watch. The comedian even called him out for doing that, but he just smiled. He chose his highest excitement in that micro-moment.

The other day, I really wanted to eat the last gluten free bagel in the house, but I told myself no. Maybe my mom would like to eat it.

How often do we do things like this, trying to be a people pleaser? The funny thing is that that’s exactly how my mom also thinks, wanting me to have the last bagel, so it results in an uneaten bagel stalemate. Once I became aware of that, I went down and ate it.

No one likes a martyr. No one likes a selfish person either but there is a middle way. Most likely, you’re being more martyr than selfish, so go ahead and eat that fuckin bagel.

Change the channel when it starts sucking. Turn the song off immediately when you don’t feel like listening anymore. Change the subject. Stand up and leave. Don’t forcefully eat that last piece of broccoli. Quit your job. Leave your wife.

Once you start leaning towards making micro-choices between this and that every day based on your inner ding, it snowballs into powerful joy and bliss.