One Way To Get Unstuck

October 13, 2016

Sometimes we find ourselves completely stuck.
Like a car veering off the path and getting stuck in mud. Accelerating and reversing both get us more stuck.

There are many methods to get unstuck.
Today I want to focus on one that is fairly simple and works.

Our only goal, in this time of stuckness, is to find one thing we like. One thing we prefer to another thing.

I heard this technique from someone far wiser (though I can’t remember who at this time) and had a chance to try out this method for myself. The downside of the whole thing is that I found myself stuck! The upside is that this method works. So now this is a part of my tool belt. We don’t want to walk around with only a hammer.

The first step of all stuckness is to stop resisting.
The more we try, the more we will get stuck of course.
This is obvious, I know, but wanted to state it in case we forget.

Then, we must make the decision to ignore our mental chatter.

Take the elevator down somewhere else. Focus on your heart, stomach, feet, fingers, wherever. The mental chatter will still be going on strong, but we can choose to not pay attention. I know! This is huge, I wish someone had taught me this when I was a child!! We are not our thoughts, we are the observer of those thoughts.

Once we are away from the mental chatter, we can consciously choose to think a good feeling thought.

What is the smallest, tiniest, simplest preference I have right now?

Well, I really love coffee. The warmth. The smell. The energy.
I love watching spongebob squarepants.
I love having the internet.
At least I can listen to some podcasts while I’m stuck.
I love that the pantry has some larabars in it. I’m not completely out of food.
At least I’m not in high school anymore. That’s pretty awesome. I’m a freakin adult dammit!

Soon the momentum will build and your energies will have shifted. You can keep priming the pump as long as you want, preferably this becoming a daily habit.

100% works.

“Let us rise up and be thankful,
for if we didn’t learn a lot today,
at least we learned a little,
and if we didn’t learn a little,
at least we didn’t get sick
and if we got sick,
at least we didn’t die;
so let us all be thankful.”

– Gautama Buddha