Dandelions and Orchids (and Analogies)

October 4, 2016

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The right analogy can blow your mind wide open.
More than reading a dozen books worth of technical words.

Dandelions & Orchids
I’ve been reading as much about highly sensitive people, empaths, intuitives, and such for many years now.

Then I heard an analogy that put everything into perspective.
Susan Cain, author of the introvert bible Quiet, has a podcast. In one of the episodes, she mentions how sensitive kids are like Orchids.

Holy cow, that did it for me.
This analogy is based on a paper by researchers Ellis & Boyce, who talk about gene variation in people that signify how sensitive or sturdy one is.

That’s the difference between a highly sensitive child vs a less sensitive one. Orchids, you have to try super hard to help thrive. Dandelions thrive even if you try to squelch them.

I once owned an Orchid.
It’s a super sensitive plant and requires a near perfect environment to thrive. But if you get the formula right, the plant is an absolute beauty to behold.

I’ve also (accidentally) owned Dandelions.
These suckers grew on my normally green lawn, uninvited. I think one of our neighbors had some and they pollinated their way over to my piece of land. No one likes dandelions on their lawn (I don’t understand why), nor do we need to plant em. They just arrive and are considered weeds.

Analogies
I’ve grown to absolutely love em.
Here are a couple of my faves.

“No matter how great the talent or efforts, some things just take time. You can’t produce a baby in one month by getting nine women pregnant.”
– Warren Buffett

“Either hold a rock concert, or a ballet; but don’t hold a rock concert and advertise it as a ballet.”
– Warren Buffett

“People are like dirt. They can either nourish you and help you grow as a person or they can stunt your growth and make you wilt and die.”
― Plato

“Don’t let anyone rent a space in your head, unless they’re a good tenant.”
– Unknown

“Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson


“A farmer went out to sow his seed. As he was scattering the seed, some fell along the path, and the birds came and ate it up. Some fell on rocky places, where it did not have much soil. It sprang up quickly, because the soil was shallow. But when the sun came up, the plants were scorched, and they withered because they had no root. Other seed fell among thorns, which grew up and choked the plants. Still other seed fell on good soil, where it produced a crop—a hundred, sixty or thirty times what was sown.”
– Matthew 13

Resources:
On the trail of the Orchid Child – Scientific American
How to Parent Sensitive (Orchid) Children – Susan Cain