on Eat, Pray, Love, & Separation

July 14, 2016

About two nights ago, I was comparing natal charts of married people I know & of celebrities.

I guess I had too much time on my hands.
I also compared my previous relationships and the ones I pined for, to see if they were a match or not. All you really need is a birthday and you can figure out the rest.

I looked at the signs for Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, Mars, and Ascendant (if birth time available). The first five are known as the personal planets, and the last being your public personality, aka social mask.

The hypothesis is that similar signs and dissimilar modalities should get along.
Water & Earth signs are compatible.
Air & Fire are compatible.
The most important compatibility being Sun signs.

And it’s better for a cardinal sign to be paired up with either a fixed or mutable sign, and not another cardinal sign. At least that’s what I’ve heard.

Elizabeth Gilbert
I told you recently that I started reading Eat, Pray, Love.
Just to see what it was all about.

I’ve grown to be a big fan of Elizabeth Gilbert and her thoughts on creativity, and dancing with fear instead of fighting against it. And her Oprah clips.

I’m up to the point in EPL where she hooks up with her Brazilian dude. So, I wanted to see if they were an astrological match. I assumed they would be, they had to be.

As soon as I googled Liz’s birthday, the wikipedia snippet said she was separated. WTF?!

Turns out, she announced on her facebook on July 1st that she is separating from her husband of 10 years.

The web was lit up with articles making jokey titles, similar to the one I used for this post. Though I mean nothing snarky with mine.

My first thoughts were of disappointment.
I know, it’s none of my business, but I felt a twang of it. She’s kind of a hero, a role model to me. One of many.

If someone like her, who went on a big adventure of spiritual self-discovery, can’t find long lasting love, how are we to fare? This was my thought.

Next thoughts were of relief.
I no longer have to finish the last few chapters of EPL.
No need to watch the movie.

And I don’t have to read her sequel, Committed, about getting married.

The real life ending has been spoiled.
Yes, selfish thoughts, but it’s my life & comfort I care about the most.

Third thoughts were of compassion.
I felt sympathy for her.

Knowing that a lot of folks will throw snark her way. The kind of people who look down on self-help and spirituality.

Fourth wave of thoughts were of happiness for her.
I don’t know what happened or who was in the wrong or even if no wrong was done.

It takes massive balls for anyone to separate or get a divorce. Most people suffer thru pointless boring loveless marriages.

I’m from the Louis CK camp that no good marriage ends in a divorce. That you should be happy for anyone getting a divorce, because they chose to leave something bad.

It takes even more balls for Elizabeth because she’s a public self-help figure. She knows what’s in store for her when the news goes public. But she values her happiness above other people’s opinions.

Or maybe Jose called it off, I don’t know.
In that case, kudos to him for ending it.

Anyways, I just wanted to write something that was in support of their decision.
More people should get divorces, and go on with their lives.

And 10 yrs is a long time.
That’s a successful marriage.

A decade is about the time to call it quits anyways unless you’re still head over heels with the other. It’s 16% of your adult life. We only get about six of these 10yr spans as a grown up. Maybe even separate earlier, when the seven year itch kicks in.

If you’re wondering, I never did find his birthday. So I have no clue if they’re a match, but at this point, it doesn’t matter.