Express vs Repress & Depress (Empaths)

October 25, 2015

I think one of the causes of depression is not expressing ourselves openly. Stuffing down your feelings. Anger, guilt, shame, sadness, disgust.

The problem with repressing and depressing our emotions is that it starts to build up. Like fungus. And eventually it starts to spread all over and shut down our body.

When this happens, our body’s energy systems start depressing. Chakras get frozen. Meridians get blocked. Aura collapses on itself. Our body posture slumps. It becomes harder to make eye contact.

Brain stops producing all the happy neurochemicals. I don’t care how tough someone is, mess with their serotonin/dopamine/endorphin/oxytocin levels and they’re fucked.

The light bulb went off after rereading Zen teacher Cheri Huber’s book. She is a depression (and suicide) survivor. Turned to Zen for peace of mind. And now teaches others how to free themselves.

She says: it’s not depression that’s the problem. It’s what you are depressing that’s the problem. Whenever you get depressed, you did the same thing you always do. You depressed some things. Figure out what that is. And break the pattern.

I realized recently that I don’t express my feelings openly. I am way too polite & nice. Try to be kind. And I don’t want to rock the boat. These are telltale signs of highly sensitive empaths. We want everyone to get along. We absorb negative energy and try to make everything positive.

A little bit of this is good. Too much of this is not a healthy way to live. Because the fungus builds up in our body to deep depression levels.

We need to figure out way to have strong boundaries, speak our mind openly, and stand up for ourselves. There’s a difference between kindness and being a doormat. These skills are especially important for empaths.

Resource:
Assertiveness for Earth Angels: How to Be Loving Instead of “Too Nice” – Doreen Virtue. This book is awesome because it discusses this exact topic. I’m only a couple of chapters in and am super excited.