Forget Soulmates, Go For True-Self Mates

October 23, 2015


First time I heard about soulmates, it was from my friend. He had just broken up with his long time girlfriend and wondered if he had made a big mistake. What is she was his soulmate and he messed up?

I didn’t believe in soulmates. Because that made no sense. Just one person meant for you? What if she lived in China? The odds are against you, man.

He was religious and I wasn’t. We had many drunk debates.

At some point later in life, I started believing in soulmates and he no longer did. I think he became less religious and I more spiritual.

Since then, I’ve been obsessed with finding a soulmate.
I don’t think there’s one person for you, though. I think life is like a darts board. There are different levels of humans that we are compatible with. The closer to the bullseye, the better the match. Maybe there are a 100,000 “soulmate” matches out of 6 billion people. And I wanted to meet one of them.

I’ve also heard the theory that everyone is your soulmate because they are all souls. Pieces of the original source. Some say you are your own soulmate. Once you are aligned with yourself, the rest figures itself out.

Anyways, all of this is prologue. What I really want to tell you about is the idea of “true-self mates” from Cyndi Dale.

She makes the case that we don’t want to meet our soulmates. Because souls are the little part of the big source. And souls tend to live out karmically. This means we are living off of our past actions. Trying to right the wrongs. Big picture – soulmates are full of drama.

What we want to do is attract true-self mates. These are folks who leave karma behind and live dharmically. Meaning we are aligned with our higher self. No more karmic drama. No more bs.

I’m liking this idea.

Beyond Soulmates – Cyndi Dale (book)
Beyond Soulmates Audio Interview
Written Interview