The Antidote To Anger

August 25, 2015

“Anger, Lust, and Greed are the three gates leading straight to hell”
– says Krishna in the Baghavad Gita.

Not a literal hell of course, but a personal hell on earth.
Which is much worse.

I definitely have anger that pops up quite frequently.
Usually when I think of past injustices.

Lust is there too, whenever I see a beautiful woman.
With the magic of makeup, photoshop, plastic surgery, and skimpy clothes, nearly all women are beautiful to the eye these days.

Greed, not so much.
I’m indifferent to material things.
I like to buy cool useful things but fortunately don’t have the Scrooge McDuck syndrome.

According to Louise Hay, anger is a big cause for depression and weight gain around the stomach area. Both have been major challenges in my life.

I once went to an acupuncture doctor and he looked at my tongue. Said I have anger issues. At that time, I thought he was crazy but now I’m starting to see a pattern.

So now what.
How do we get rid of anger?
I’ve tried as many tools and tricks as possible.
Therapy, medication, meditation, psychedelics, eft, punching pillows, journaling, blah blah blah.

I realized yesterday that my premise was wrong.
I can’t get rid of anger.
It will always be there.
The only thing I can do is not pay attention to it.
And grow the antidotes to anger.

The Dalai Lama talks about cultivating patience as the #1 antidote to anger. The more patience I have, the less angry I will get. Secondary antidotes like forgiveness and compassion will also aid in the process.

This is similar to what Rudyard Kipling suggests in his famous poem, IF:
“If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!”

It’s like a video game.
The more often my character gets angry, it’s a sign that the patience fuel tank is empty. My goal is to get enough experience points to grow my patience meter as much as possible.

Resources:
Metaphysical causes of illnesses – Louise Hay
Anger & its antidotes – buddhist views
Dalai Lama also gets angry
IF – Rudyard Kipling, full poem

Farnaz August 25, 2015 at 7:35 pm

Hi Deepak, great post.
I also struggled with anger for years and years. It was partly brought on by medication i was on, but even after that i had a lot of anger. Everyone in my life knew me for getting angry easily.
Anyway after learning the Law of Attraction i realised anger is not bad, its just a phase you go through in order to get to love. Look through the emotional guidance scale i have posted about, anger is at the bottom after depression. Its far better to be angry than depressed, chances are you are coming out of depression. Then work your way up to more better feeling thoughts. You will find the weight will fall off and the rest of your life will change in magical ways.
Good luck :)

Deepak August 26, 2015 at 12:55 pm

Hey Farnaz
Thanks for the guidance and the nice words. I’m a big abe fan as well, will work on the guidance scale as you suggested. I bought your ebook also, looking forward to reading it. Nice to hear from someone who is into this kinda stuff. Take care!

Farnaz September 9, 2015 at 9:45 pm

Hi Deepak!

Thanks for buying my book, i hope my struggles and now clarity help you get to your goals more quickly. I would love to hear your feedback one day.
Its also nice to find your website and to see how honestly you are sharing your story. I have been brutally honest in my book and my family are not too happy about it ;) But i believe the truth sets you free.