Mindfulness Trick To Stop Gossip & Arguing (on the phone)

June 23, 2015

Ok I have had a problem.
No matter how hard I try, I cannot stop myself from binge eating gossip. And arguing with people.

Not everyone. Just a couple of people. Either I bring this outta them or they bring this outta me. I don’t know. But there are like 3-4 people that I either gossip or argue with.

I’ve tried many things to stop this over the years. Nothing sticks.

If there was a way for someone to whisper in my ear “ok, deepak, you’re about to talk to this person, do NOT gossip” – that would be perfect.

The next best thing is to have a mindfulness reminder.
And since most of my communication is thru texting, emails & phone calls, I added a mindfulness reminder right on their name.

This is how their names now appear on my phone:
(no gossip) Johnny M
(no arguing) Biff Tannen
(no neg talk) Maude
(do NOT respond) Sheneneh Jenkins

When my phone rings, beeps, or buzzes – I see the reminder along with their name and prepare myself.

So far it’s been a success!