On Revenge

May 31, 2015

Don’t do it. I guess.

Every time I get worked up about a past injustice, I either:
fume about it until it ruins my day/week/month/year,
retaliate with harsh words,
use it as motivation to work harder,
or try hard to forget about it.
Sometimes I’ll forgive them (this takes massive amount of effort).

One of the things that helps me is reading what wise people say about not seeking revenge.

“Never take your own revenge, beloved, but leave room for the wrath of God, for it is written, “VENGEANCE IS MINE, I WILL REPAY,” says the Lord.” – Romans 12:19

I’m not a big bible guy but heard about this from The Count of Monte Cristo (the movie):

Abbe Faria (the old mentor): Here is your final lesson – do not commit the crime for which you now serve the sentence. God said, “Vengeance is mine.”

Edmond Dantes (the angry hero seeking revenge): I don’t believe in God.

Abbe Faria: It doesn’t matter. He believes in you.

“While seeking revenge, dig two graves – one for yourself.” – Douglas Horton

“The best revenge is to be unlike him who performed the injury.” – Marcus Aurelius

“A man that studieth revenge keeps his own wounds green.” – Francis Bacon

“Forgiveness is better than revenge, for forgiveness is the sign of a gentle nature, but revenge is the sign of a savage nature.” – Epictetus

“There’s small revenge in words, but words may be greatly revenged.” – Ben Franklin

“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” – Buddha

I remember reading a story.
There was a heated debate between Socrates and another dude. The dude got so angry that he spit on Socrates face. After some time had passed, the guy came back and apologized for his behavior. He was sorry to have offended Socrates. To this, Socrates said that there is nothing to apologize for. He was not offended.

Our man Socrates is such a badass that he chose not to be angry, offended, or insulted even when a dude spit on him in public.

Mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.