The Truth Shall Set You Free. Why?

May 22, 2015

I’ve lied for many reasons.
1. I did something wrong and don’t wanna get into trouble.
2. I don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings.
3. I’m embarrassed of myself & don’t want to be ridiculed.

Let’s focus on #3.
On a date with a girl.
You go to the restroom to pee. And get lost in thought. Miss the mark and wet your pants. Right on the crotch.

Outcome #1
The harder you try to dry your pants, the worse it gets.

You walk back to your seat. Super embarrassed. Try not to make eye contact with anyone else and covering up your pee spot.

The problem with this situation is that you feel super awkward and embarrassed. And everyone gets a weird vibe. People notice the wet spot. They point, whisper, and giggle. At least you feel like they do. Sucks.

Outcome #2
You come out of the bathroom. Head high and yell out loud, I peed my pants everybody. Look, right here. I peed right here. A big ol wet spot. Who wants to touch it??

A bit extreme.
Of course you’re not really going to do this. But as soon as you tell the truth and shine light on your shame, it fades away.

It’s like the fat kid making fun of himself first to take away the ammo from his bullies.

This works in private too.
While you are journaling. Even better to blog it.
Admit the truth. In a kind, funny way.
Shame thrives in dark damp spots, just like mold.
Shine some light and heat on that mf’er.