Some Life Lessons: Get Rich Quick, Super Mario 3, Public Speaking & Hard Work

November 24, 2013

1. Don’t trust a fat doctor’s weight loss advice.

2. When desiring money, focusing only on “making money” will not result in success.

Mistake: buying every make money info product under the sun (ie: Frank Kern, Eben Pagan, Jeff Walker, Joe Polish & many others).

Not their fault. 100% mine.

To make “money” requires providing “value” to people. To provide real value, I need to have more life experience – not just money making tactics.

I needed to learn psychology, philosophy, investing, writing skills & overcome a lot of my negative habits. I needed to live enough life & pay attention to notice success patterns.

Silver Lining: By making the mistake of buying a lot of super expensive info products, I did learn one thing. How these successful marketers think.

They would constantly mention certain books (ie: Influence by Cialdini) & I finally started paying attention.

3. Success & Good Life = Read many books in different fields as soon as possible. Don’t stop. Listen to folks who’ve actually walked the walk.

4. The Super Mario Bros 3 Limiting Belief

I thought I had read everything there is about limiting beliefs. But my own blind spots were as large as the grand canyon.

eg: As a kid, I was never able to beat Super Mario 3, no matter how many attempts. I assumed it’s just not destined for me to win.

That changed when brother introduced me to GameCenterCX.

It’s a Japanese show featuring a comedian/game-lover Arino who tries to beat retro games, usually in a 12hr time limit. And it’s super entertaining.

Watching this show changed my mindset. I finally saw how much effort & preparation it takes to beat games.

(Arino plays Super Mario 3)

Arino has many aides who give him hints on how to beat games. He also refers to game guides & uses every tool possible. There’s tons of work done & even then it’s hard for him to win games.

I naively (arrogantly) assumed I should rely only on my “genius” to win.

Finally this year, my friends & I gathered to beat mario by pulling an all-nighter. We looked up strategies online, caffeinated ourselves with bulletproof coffee & spent 8hours straight playing. By the time it was morning, we finally beat the game. Incredible!

As silly as this story may sound, it had a huge life-changing impact on my psyche. I was able to smash a limiting belief I’ve had hidden for 22 yrs.

5. Don’t trust a lifelong skinny friend’s weight loss advice.

6. Public speaking lesson: folks who make it look easy work the hardest.

I avoided most college courses that involved making presentations.

I would go to first day of class & look at the syllabus. If it required presentations, I’d drop the class.

But unfortunately, it was mandatory to take a public speaking course before getting my degree.

1st attempt: Summer school since the pain will be shortened. First day of class, the teacher called upon me to speak. I have no idea what I said but the last sentence was “I really don’t know what to say.” And then I sat back down, sweaty & humiliated. I wanted to run out of the class. And I never went back.

2nd attempt: Summer school. Same mistakes happened. Buckets of sweat, nervousness & embarrassment. But I passed, because I had to.

The way I gave my speeches were to think of the topic as I frantically drove to class. Even though I had a week to prepare. I would scribble some notes onto a scrap paper and get up there, completely blackout & say some words.

One day, I overheard this girl talking about how she practiced her speech in front of the mirror all week. What?!

People prepare in advance? Practice in front of the mirror??

I am not exaggerating when I say I had no idea people practiced. I thought success was genetic: either you could give good speeches or couldn’t.

Public speaking is still scary but I hope to slay this dragon sometime soon thru the help of Dale Carnegie speaking courses. I now understand speaking isn’t genetic. It just takes the right technique + many reps.

7. Being smart early in life can be a hindrance.

If you were bright at a young age & things came easily, you don’t learn how to practice & work hard.

I was a fairly bright student with zero effort at a young age. That was in India. I won awards, was top in class & teachers frequently told me I’m smart.

Big mistake because I believed the hype.

I coasted (poorly) thru high school & college in USA barely doing homework or studying.

I was in for a rude awakening once I hit the real world.

Mike Tyson said it best: “If you’re not humble in this world, this world will dress humbleness upon you.”

Real world requires real hard work.

I realized I’m not a genius. I got lucky early in life. I needed to be humbled with hardcore failure to start working hard.

I still have a long way to go but I’m no longer sleepwalking thru life. And I’m thoroughly enjoying the process of learning + practice.

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