Cameron Russell won the genetic lottery.
She’s a supermodel.
Tall, pretty, slender and white.
Gets paid to walk around in underwear.
But she is rare in that she admits her good luck.
Watch here

Warren Buffett won the ovarian lottery.
He admits the odds of him being born white, male, in america, with the passion for capital allocation, at a time when this could be put to use, were astronomical. Bill Gates jokes that if Warren had been born earlier, he would’ve been some animal’s lunch. Ditto for Bill.
Read here

Seth Godin won the parental lottery.
“I was a free range kid.”
He tells stories of his parents being smart, wise, and letting him try wild experiences. Like the time his parents put him on a boat with a stranger. When he was 14. Seth ended up being alone and lost. Found his way back home. And his mom sent him to school the next day. As if nothing traumatic had happened. Because nothing bad did happen.
Listen here

Some people hit it big right away.
But don’t get discouraged.
You can grind it out and create your own advantages.

“If you don’t like how things are, change it.
You’re not a tree!”

– Jim Rohn

I’ve lied for many reasons.
1. I did something wrong and don’t wanna get into trouble.
2. I don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings.
3. I’m embarrassed of myself & don’t want to be ridiculed.

Let’s focus on #3.
On a date with a girl.
You go to the restroom to pee. And get lost in thought. Miss the mark and wet your pants. Right on the crotch.

Outcome #1
The harder you try to dry your pants, the worse it gets.

You walk back to your seat. Super embarrassed. Try not to make eye contact with anyone else and covering up your pee spot.

The problem with this situation is that you feel super awkward and embarrassed. And everyone gets a weird vibe. People notice the wet spot. They point, whisper, and giggle. At least you feel like they do. Sucks.

Outcome #2
You come out of the bathroom. Head high and yell out loud, I peed my pants everybody. Look, right here. I peed right here. A big ol wet spot. Who wants to touch it??

A bit extreme.
Of course you’re not really going to do this. But as soon as you tell the truth and shine light on your shame, it fades away.

It’s like the fat kid making fun of himself first to take away the ammo from his bullies.

This works in private too.
While you are journaling. Even better to blog it.
Admit the truth. In a kind, funny way.
Shame thrives in dark damp spots, just like mold.
Shine some light and heat on that mf’er.

Your Mom

May 22, 2015

Is just a girl.

Who was born at some point.
Ate a bunch of food.
Pooped a lot.
Grew larger.
Hooked up with a dude.
One of those times, she got pregnant.
Because his sperm partied with her egg.

And now you are here.

Don’t take it.
Their best ideas got them where they are today.

If a bad person tells me to eat vegetables, I’ll start snorting cocaine. (that’s the opposite of vegetables, right?)

What makes a person bad?
Very subjective. But there are some common themes.

Look to movies & tv for examples.
Saruman from Lord of the Rings
Biff from Back to the Future
Squidward from Spongebob Squarepants
Walter White (& nearly everyone) from Breaking Bad

Everyone has good & bad qualities.
If we were to make a list of all the bad qualities and notice a majority of them in a person = safe to call them a bad person in this scenario.

You will encounter different types of advice in life.

1. Good advice from bad people.
2. Bad advice from bad people.
Best to avoid bad people as a rule so you don’t have to hear them yapping.
The worse the person, the more advice they give.

3. Good advice from good people.
– Try it out.

4. Bad advice from good people.
– Listen. But avoid doing.
Figure out the error the person is making in thinking this is good advice. Because if this good person can make this error, so can we.

This is a hard lesson to learn in life.
To distinguish when good people give bad advice.

Because people in general are well meaning.
And they think they are helping.
But it can seriously lead you astray from your true north.

I’m not immune from this disease.
I’ve given so much terrible advice that I could probably get my name in the guinness world records.

And I’ve consumed too much terrible advice as well.

The best thing is to develop your inner compass.
It takes time.
Read a lot. Fiction & Nonfiction. Notice things. Try different experiments.
Eventually you’ll recognize how some piece of advice feels in your gut.
Or better yet, you can generate your own advice.