“Anger, Lust, and Greed are the three gates leading straight to hell”
– says Krishna in the Baghavad Gita.
Not a literal hell of course, but a personal hell on earth.
Which is much worse.
I definitely have anger that pops up quite frequently.
Usually when I think of past injustices.
Lust is there too, whenever I see a beautiful woman.
With the magic of makeup, photoshop, plastic surgery, and skimpy clothes, nearly all women are beautiful to the eye these days.
Greed, not so much.
I’m indifferent to material things.
I like to buy cool useful things but fortunately don’t have the Scrooge McDuck syndrome.
According to Louise Hay, anger is a big cause for depression and weight gain around the stomach area. Both have been major challenges in my life.
I once went to an acupuncture doctor and he looked at my tongue. Said I have anger issues. At that time, I thought he was crazy but now I’m starting to see a pattern.
So now what.
How do we get rid of anger?
I’ve tried as many tools and tricks as possible.
Therapy, medication, meditation, psychedelics, eft, punching pillows, journaling, blah blah blah.
I realized yesterday that my premise was wrong.
I can’t get rid of anger.
It will always be there.
The only thing I can do is not pay attention to it.
And grow the antidotes to anger.
The Dalai Lama talks about cultivating patience as the #1 antidote to anger. The more patience I have, the less angry I will get. Secondary antidotes like forgiveness and compassion will also aid in the process.
This is similar to what Rudyard Kipling suggests in his famous poem, IF:
“If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!”
It’s like a video game.
The more often my character gets angry, it’s a sign that the patience fuel tank is empty. My goal is to get enough experience points to grow my patience meter as much as possible.