“And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell not: for it was founded upon a rock.”
– Matthew 7:25

Background
Winter is coming.

Did you feel it yet?
I did about a week or two ago. The feeling of darkness approaching. The approach of shorter days. Gloominess.

More irritable than normal. Hands having a hard time holding onto things, attention is lower than normal. Knocking things over. Vision not as clear.

Winter is coming.

Are you ready?
If you’re 1 out of the 4 folks who suffer from seasonal affective disorder, you know exactly what I’m talkin about.

For many years, my house was founded on sand. Worse, it was built out of straw. Winter came, huffed and puffed, and knocked everything over. And I had to start over in the Spring.

The great thing about human beings is that we’re resilient.
If you survive a hardship, it will make you stronger for the better.

This Winter, I’m not nervous at all. I’m battle ready.

And I want to share my exact cheatsheet, which I have saved on my computer & phone, put together over YEARS of trial and error, so that you can ease your suffering.

(I’ll spare you the science, stats, and other fillers, because it’ll take up too much space.)

The Ultimate S.A.D. Cheatsheet

WHEN IT STARTS
September
Clues: A dark, cold, irritable, lethargy, angry type feeling. Don’t feel like socializing, don’t feel like going out, negative feelings. This is not how I am normally, so this is an emotional marker that the storm is coming. This is a real thing, be prepared. Don’t be fooled by Summer and the great feels. Don’t get caught off guard. I’m sensitive and will feel the seasons change. Affects 20% of people, some worse than others. I have it bad, so reread all the notes and get the weapons ready at first sight of change. It’ll be much harder to gather the tools once in the midst of war.

LIGHT
Use 3 lightboxes at once. Total of 30,000 lux. For as long as it takes to get that uplifting, warm feeling inside the brain.
Keep using 5 full spectrum bulbs on the tree lamp, keep it on longer into the evening with the timer.

VITAMINS
5HTP for dark brain feeling
Tyrosine as needed for energy
B Complex
Vitamin D 6,000-10,000
Fish Oil 11-15G
Multivitamin
Vitamin C, saturate body as needed
Turmeric with black pepper
Greens
Protein, plenty of it
Water salted 134oz or more
Eat every 2-4 hours, blood sugar maintain, no slacking
Gut health: collagen, glutamine, bone broth as needed

HEAT
Fir sauna, more regularly
Detox salt baths
Hot drinks: coffee, tea
Yang foods: meats, soups, broth, fat
Fireplace videos, wear warm reddish colors

AIR
Need fresh air also, open windows periodically, go out in nature, negative ions
Humidifier

COLD
cold showers also, to shock system, helps bathe brain, helps immune system

ENERGY WORK
Eft, even if for multiple hours
Daily Energy Routine via Donna Eden
Jin Shin Jyutsu
Chakras & Meridians
Sage
Incense
Crystals & Gemstones for upliftment
Affirmations: Best Winter Ever
Morning pages, using Vimala Alphabet, express feelings
Reframe negative thoughts, Byron Katie
Practice nonresisance, nonattachment, nonjudgement, Eckhart Tolle
Bach flower remedies as needed
Essential oils for upliftment

SOUND
Chakra tuneup music
Solfeggio healing music
Chant music
Subliminal hypnosis audio

SPIRITUAL
be gentle with myself
Care, love & empathy
Count my blessings
Bhagavad Gita
Bible
Tao Te Ching
Stoicism
Joel Osteen
TD Jakes
Abe Hicks
Prayer
Cast burden on the Christ within & I go free
Ask God & Angels for support, they’re always there
Remember I have spirit guides who love to help
I don’t have to do it all myself
“This too shall pass”
Watch funny, uplifting stuff
Stay away from negative people, places, shows, things

METAPHORS
Look to nature for great examples on how to handle Winter.
Plants & trees can’t move, so they shed their leaves & hybernate
Bears load up on food & hibernate
Birds, mobile, fly down South for better weather
Since I’m not mobile now, I can be like the plants and trees. Once I’m mobile, I can emulate the birds. I can find ways to thrive anywhere, any season.

LAST OPTIONS
Remember I can always go see a therapist or even try meds if it gets unbearable. It’s ok to take medicine. Remember, “God works thru medicine and doctors also.”

Quotes For The Day

September 27, 2016

Quotes are like a shot of espresso.
They get the job done fast.

These are the quotes that I’ve been loving lately and wanna share with you.

“We do not learn, and that what we call learning is only a process of recollection.”
– Plato

“Honesty is a very expensive gift, don’t expect it from cheap people.”
– Warren Buffett

“Nothing ever goes away until it teaches us what we need to know.”
– Pema Chodron

“By cultivating attitudes of
friendliness toward the happy,
compassion for the unhappy,
delight in the virtuous,
and disregard toward the wicked,
the mind-stuff retains its undisturbed calmness.”

– Yoga Sutras of Patanjali 1.33

“Happy is the man that findeth wisdom, and the man that getteth understanding.”
– Proverbs 3.13

“If you cannot find a good companion to walk with, walk alone, like an elephant roaming the jungle. It is better to be alone than to be with those who will hinder your progress.”
– Buddha

“If something is important enough, even if the odds are against you, you should still do it.”
– Elon Musk

“Some very long marriage is good but quite often marriage is preparation for divorce.”
– Dalai Lama

Background
It’s important to allow good ideas to come to us in as many ways as possible. Since I’m mainly an indoorsman these days, and super happy being one, I’ve devised ways for mental irrigation.

I sub to multiple podcasts, youtube channels, email newsletters, regularly check amazon recommended lists, read as many books as humanly possible, read annual corporate reports by folks like Buffett & Bezos, and keep tabs on taste-maker blogs.

I’m not bragging, because I was not always like this, just explaining my methods.

I remember reading about the Golden Age of Islam and the Middle East.
From the 8th century to the 13th, the middle east was where all the mental thuggs lived. They invited experts from all fields and allowed good mental irrigation. There was even a House of Wisdom in Baghdad, where Jewish, Christian, Hindu and other folks were welcome to study and share ideas.

The House of Wisdom at that time had the largest selection of books available in the world! Science, economics, poetry, medicine, geography, and art thrived, until the city was eventually sacked by the Mongols.

Coach Urban Meyer
I got a link to an article on Urban Meyer thru Ryan Holiday’s email newsletter where he shares his favorite books & articles.

I had no idea what the article was about until I read it all the way through. It’s a long ass read, so you may not feel like reading it. The only reason I pushed through was because it was about a successful coach and I like these types of stories.

Only after I finished did I realize how good the article and the topic is. So I want to do a sales job and let you know why you should read this.

The article is about a super successful college football coach.
It’s about a driven no-nonsense type guy who pushes himself to succeed, and even after winning, he feels unsatisfied. Just imagine what he feels after losing! Devastated. Obsessed. Brooding.

He is married to a supportive wife, who happens to be a mental health psych nurse, yet he never listened to her warning bells.

She told him that he’s pushing himself too far, he didn’t listen. She said he needs to figure out ways to work on his mental game, to not let the stress build up, to not obsess, he didn’t listen. She begged him to work out even for 30 minutes, but he said he didn’t have the time to spare. He thought mental health was for weak people, that tough men should just push through.

He found himself losing 40 pounds from all the stress, taking 2 ambien at night followed by beer, just to sleep. This kept on until one night he woke up in terror, he thought he was dying. They called 911 and went to the hospital.

Oprah says that life whispers to us all the time. If we don’t listen, life will eventually smack us with a frying pan, to make us pay attention.

This was Urban Meyer’s cast-iron frying pan.

Since then he has completely turned his life around.
He is more balanced.

He works on his mental health every single day. He wakes up and receives a spiritual text from one of his friends. Then he reads his Bible. He checks in with his wife multiple times a day, and she can see if he is on track or off course. He spends time alone to reconnect with his spirit and creator.

He has a mental coach come in to teach him and his players techniques. He knows that the only thing we can control is how we react to a situation. He knows we all have a choice how to react to good and bad events. It’s a learnable skill. He never looks back, he doesn’t allow his brain to brood, he knows that’s dangerous.

He eats regularly even if he doesn’t feel hungry. Mind and Body are one thing. Body issues pop up as mind problems and vice versa. He now takes care of both. He squeezes in a workout no matter how busy.

He spends more time with his wife and kids. He’s more playful and fun again. He leaves work at work and is more present at home. He’s a changed guy.

I can completely relate to Urban.
I’ve been smacked in the head by that frying pan too, multiple times!
That’s why I recognize how amazing this article is.

The lessons included are universal, every single person has a mind. And that mind needs regular maintenance, just like your car and body.


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Resources:
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Background
I can’t stop thinking of race these days.
Must be something in the air.

Can I be totally honest with you?
I had no idea that I was a minority all these years!
I thought I was just a guy who is American.

To be 100%, part of me thought I was just a white guy who happened to have a dark tan.

Most Americans (white or otherwise) mistake me for being black, but I’m actually South Indian by genetics.

People usually whisper in my ear, after learning I’m Indian, that they thought I was African American all this time. That they’ve never seen a tall, big-bonded Indian like me. Even black people think I’m black! All of this is fine, I like black people anyways.

Since I’ve always been South Indian, (though ironically I was born in Africa), I thought this was funny. Most Americans have never met many South Indians, I assume.

When I first came to the country, back in the early 90s, I was acutely aware I was not American. I looked different. I talked different. I smelled different. Over two decades of trial and error, I methodically erased all the foreign in me to become as American as I can be.

I went to american schools. I had american friends. I watch american shows. I listen to american radio. I eat american food. I’m an american citizen. I don’t even think twice about being an immigrant. That seems like another lifetime.

Whitewashed
Something interesting is happening lately.

I’m noticing that quite a few minorities are actually saying racist stuff. Specifically, I’m noticing many Indians are saying racist things. Not against white people, but against other minorities.

It’s something about empathic folks like us, others will speak quite openly around us. Strangers reveal secrets usually reserved for the therapist.

Some of my dark-skinned brethren, for some reason, think they look like Taylor Swift. At least that’s how they talk when they say despicable things about other dark skinned minorities. Maybe their mirrors reflect something different than mine.

This is a very curious thing.
I wanted to understand why this was happening.

And I have a (big bang) theory.
(Definitely not sorry for that awesome pun.)

Folks, even me, are being whitewashed.
We’re watching too many white shows, which skew our sense of reality so much that when we see dark-skinned folks in real life, they stand out.

Big Bang Theory
Let’s get something straight.
I like the big bang theory.

It’s innocent, fun, doesn’t require much thinking, and the constant laugh track makes me feel good. There’s no violence or crazy things happening, like Game of Thrones. It’s the nerdy Friends.

But let’s also be clear.
Big bang theory isn’t a kale smoothie. It’s not nutritious.
It’s more like a box of donuts. Tastes good going down, but afterwards, diabetes.

Whenever I watch a bunch of episodes in a row, I start to feel weird. The show is way too polished and sweet. My adult brain now recognizes that this is not how real life is at all.

Big Bang Theory, one of the most watched shows, available on free tv, is super white.

It’s so white that the one dark skinned guy has a super thick accent. That feels so much like 80s or 90s humor, right?

It’s so white that they constantly make racist & religious jokes aimed at him, and there’s a laugh track to make us feel good about the whole thing.

He’s also super effeminate, outfitted with a tiny paris hilton type dog, and can’t even talk to girls most of the seasons without drinking alcohol. Maybe I’m taking it personally because the guy is also an Indian Hindu immigrant, like me, though I see nothing in me in his character. Come on, he’s North Indian!

Other than him, there are no major dark skinned characters.
No mexicans, no asians, no black americans, no middle easterners, no africans. Even the extras, sitting in the cafeteria while the main group is eating, are mostly white.

Sure, there was a North Korean spy that Leonard once dated. And one super smart asian kid who outsmarted Sheldon. And there’s a black professor who shows up in a few episodes. Other than that, this is pure white.

And that’s ok.

There’s no rule that networks have to put minorities on tv. I don’t want to live in a world where those types of rules exist. The show is made by white people, run by a white dude, on a huge national network run by another white guy, aimed at a mostly white country.

And I love white people too, so much so that I thought I was white! Only recently, when I’m out in public, I’m acutely aware that I’m dark skinned. Noticing more stares than usual.

The side effect of super white popular shows is that we are all getting whitewashed. Dark skin starts to look weird in real life because so much of our popular art portrays light skin.

That’s why we need more shows like Master of None, Blackish, In Living Color, & Martin. I get it now. I’m only sorry that I was so whitewashed all this time to recognize this phenomenon. It means that if you are a minority of any type (race, gender, class), you have to create good art to represent your people.