Joseph Campbell said it best.
“Follow your bliss.”

It’s easy to know the thing you need most, at this moment.
The hard part, though, is knowing that the thing you need most exists.

Let me make that clear with a few examples.

Back around 2005, I bought the three dvd set of Back to The Future. I then proceeded to watch those movies, every night, for weeks on end! I never tired of it, like one never tires of cold water in the Saharan desert. Something in that movie was giving me hope that transformation is possible, no matter how crappy your beginnings.

When I discovered that fish oil exists, I proceeded to buy some capsules. Nothing happened. After a year of this, I found that they make liquid fish oil, making it easier to take larger doses. The same amount of liquid fish oil contained in a tablespoon would need you to swallow 10 or more capsules!

Once I started taking liquid fish oil, I felt risen from the dead. My brain, body, mood, felt amazing. This lasted for a long while, until that feeling faded. I took this to mean that my body was feeling saturated and no longer needed the high doses.

The same goes for supergreens powder and one of my friends. When he discovered this existed, and took some, he felt like rocket thrusters had been placed on his body. I’ve taken green powders and still do, but I never felt this good. I take this to mean that his body was severely deficient in whatever the greens provided him, and I didn’t have that much of a need.

Sometimes I’ll listen to the same Jerry Seinfeld Howard Stern interview over and over. The same Louis CK interview over and over. The same Kevin Hart interview over and over. I don’t do this by force, but it’s kind of like filling up my gas tank. I keep going until I feel full. Othertimes I’ll listen to TD Jakes video sermons all night, until I no longer feel like doing that. When I’m full, I move onto other things.

Whenever I overcome Resistance and write or podcast, I feel great.
It never fails.
I assume that’s how athletes feel on the court. How actors feel on the stage. How musicians feel while performing.

It will be very easy to know the thing you need.
You need the thing you’re drawn to and makes you feel best.
A feeling of bliss.

(Donuts, liquor, & cocaine don’t qualify, because they inevitably make you feel like crap after the high is over.)

Be Innocent

August 20, 2016

I don’t know if your personality is something you make up as you go along, or if it’s set when you’re born. It can go either way in my mind.

Folks with kids, like Elon Musk, say that for sure they come out of the womb with certain personalities.

I wonder though.
Are some people born to be crafty, clever, evil-hearted, like Danglars in Count of Monte Cristo? Others born to use flattery while wishing ill for you, like Uriah Heep in David Copperfield? Some are born to be good friends but are goofy & dumb like Patrick from SpongeBob? Some to be stingy uppity douchebags like Squidward?

Be Innocent.
I’ve been present on this planet for 35 circles around our shining star.

During that time, quite a few folks have remarked that I seem naive. Friends, family, teachers, coworkers, & even strangers. Mattress salesmen, notoriously hungry folks, look at me twice when I decline a discount, if that means it will come out of their commission (true story).

Naive is a word that’s meant as an insult.
It means you don’t what’s going on.

One night in college, someone knocked on my apartment door. I opened & saw a disheveled dirty older guy who said that his car had broken down. He needed something from me, either money or help, I can’t remember now.

I also happened to be on the phone with a sophisticated (aka non-naive) person at the same time. She started yelling into my ears to close the door. That this is a common scam. Don’t bring out my wallet. Don’t go outside with the guy. They’re looking for suckers to scam. By the end, she was yelling at the top of her lungs for me to listen to her!

So, I closed the door, feeling a pang of guilt and also shame at being so naive.

Nothing bad happened that night, the dude kept ringing my bell but I didn’t answer, eventually he left. I have tons of stories like this. Things that seem to be obvious scams to others but me assuming the best intentions in others.

Now that I’m older, and maybe a little wiser, I know there are multiple meanings to naive. A positive connotation can be that one is innocent. We expect others to be goodhearted. We expect things to work out. We believe in things more than most people. We’re optimists, bordering on delusional. The polar opposite of a skeptic.

I don’t think this is a bad thing.
As a matter of fact, I think this trait should be celebrated & cultivated if you’re like one of us.

SpongeBob SquarePants is innocent.
Sure, he falls for more scams and tricks than the average fish, but he always comes out unscathed. He is the Teflon Don, nothing bad sticks.

David Copperfield is innocent.
Edmond Dantes, innocent.
Luke Skywalker too.

Dalai Lama.
Paramahansa Yogananda.
Thich Nhat Hanh.

Tom Hanks, a notoriously nice guy in a cutthroat business, said in one interview: “I am who I am, and I think I have a good nature, by and large. But if someone takes advantage of that good nature, well then, you know, I’m not that nice a guy.” He was once getting screwed over at a business meeting, so he stood up and told everyone that his good nature will NOT be taken advantage of. Then walked out.

Warren Buffett is also innocent.
Straightforward in his dealings.
Tries to do good. Keeps good cheer despite what may ail him.
Not an ounce of hate in his heart that shows outwardly.
He’s no dummy though, been around the block 85 times, but still holding onto his innocence.

If you’re also naive, good-natured & innocent, don’t sweat it. Others may seem to get the upper hand early in your life, because it’s so easy to take advantage of folks like us.

But as you also go around the block a few times, you will become wiser.
Maintain the innocence though as you grow older because that will help you be like Teflon. Nothing bad will stick (for long), while the schemers & ill-wishers reap what they’ve sown over the years. That’s the law of the universe.

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I know your hands are tired.
Just keep swimming.

The ocean is on fire.
Just keep swimming.

Family & friends drowning all around.
Just keep swimming.

You’ll fall off the edge, they say.
Just keep swimming.

That’s the message I have for you today.
You must keep swimming.

Oh yea, and I also finally overcame resistance to write my first book, published as an e-book on Amazon. I know you will enjoy it, for sure.

It’s called:
The Short Book of Depression Cures: How to Get Out of Bed When You Can’t Move.
You can check out the Introduction & part of Chapter 1 for free, in the product description. If you don’t own a kindle, there are free kindle apps for pc, mac, iphone, android, and tablets.

I’ve been there. I’ve done that.
And I’m here to light your candle, so that you can keep going. And then you will light others. Just like many showed mercy & lit my candle.

Now, buy 100,000,000 copies already so that I can stop being all spiritual & get back to hookers, drugs, & debauchery!

The Short Book of Depression Cures
Now available on Amazon!

August 12, 2016

I promised you a few years back that one day I will write a book for you. And I know you’ll be happy to hear that I’ve finally done it!

Many folks have commented on my blog & emailed me privately, saying they’re depressed and losing all hope.

I can relate.
I’ve been there, down in that cold dark sewer too.
Over the years, I’ve collected tools & tricks to help me get out.

As I heard one Buddhist monk say, if you know something that could help another sentient being, it would be a sin not to share your knowledge, no matter how nervous or scared you feel to do so. Whether that’s public speaking or writing a book.

So, I have overcome my timidity for a moment to write & publish an e-book on Depression Cures.

I wrote it over a period of two days, barely sleeping or eating. The ideas in the book have been on my mind for many years, so it easily flowed out once I had overcome my resistance.

The ebook published on Amazon last nite. Then I spent the whole day today frantically correcting all the errors I could find, having a couple of friends also look it over.

I’m just a regular guy and I don’t have a big publishing company backing me. Lucky for people like us, Amazon allows us to self-publish easily.

Take a look at the book on Amazon, you can read the Introduction & part of Chapter 1 for free in the product description.

If you don’t own a Kindle, never fear. There are free Kindle reader apps for PC, Mac, iPhone, Android, & all Tablets.

Oh yea, the book is called…
The Short Book of Depression Cures: How to Get Out of Bed When You Can’t Move



I had totally forgotten that there are other ways to vote.
And I want to share that discovery with you in case you’re feeling like I am this year.

To be honest, I was thinking of not voting at all. I don’t know if it’s apathy, laziness, or my indifference to politics these days.

If you talked to me in 2004, a much younger me would be yelling and arguing about the need to vote. In 2008, I was convincing family and friends of the importance of choosing wisely. By 2012, the fires had cooled down to a simmer.

And in 2016, well now it feels like flossing.
Or jury duty.
I gotta do this thing, again?? I imagine it’s a similar feeling John McClane gets when called out of retirement for one more crisis.

What a hassle it is to vote normally.
To wake up, shower, get dressed, skip work, drive to a place, stand in line, try not to get annoyed by other people, figure out how to use a weird machine, hoping you did that ok, get back in the car, drive back, all on a Tuesday. Especially in a state that’s not going to swing the vote.

We can vote by mail.
All states offer absentee ballots, aka vote by mail.

27 out of 50 states (+ DC) allow you to mail your vote, without needing an excuse.

20 states allow mail vote, as long you have an excuse. Why you need an excuse, I have no idea, but places like New York require one.

3 states will automatically mail you a ballot, whether you ask for one or not. Washington, Oregon, & Colorado.

For my Cook County Illinois peeps, you can download an absentee ballot online as early as August 10th (3 days from now).

Since voting this way is so effortless, I have changed my opinion on the whole process. It’s super easy, comfortable, and stress-free to vote!

Absentee Voting by State
Cook County Illinois Absentee Ballot