The Antidote To Anger

August 25, 2015

“Anger, Lust, and Greed are the three gates leading straight to hell”
– says Krishna in the Baghavad Gita.

Not a literal hell of course, but a personal hell on earth.
Which is much worse.

I definitely have anger that pops up quite frequently.
Usually when I think of past injustices.

Lust is there too, whenever I see a beautiful woman.
With the magic of makeup, photoshop, plastic surgery, and skimpy clothes, nearly all women are beautiful to the eye these days.

Greed, not so much.
I’m indifferent to material things.
I like to buy cool useful things but fortunately don’t have the Scrooge McDuck syndrome.

According to Louise Hay, anger is a big cause for depression and weight gain around the stomach area. Both have been major challenges in my life.

I once went to an acupuncture doctor and he looked at my tongue. Said I have anger issues. At that time, I thought he was crazy but now I’m starting to see a pattern.

So now what.
How do we get rid of anger?
I’ve tried as many tools and tricks as possible.
Therapy, medication, meditation, psychedelics, eft, punching pillows, journaling, blah blah blah.

I realized yesterday that my premise was wrong.
I can’t get rid of anger.
It will always be there.
The only thing I can do is not pay attention to it.
And grow the antidotes to anger.

The Dalai Lama talks about cultivating patience as the #1 antidote to anger. The more patience I have, the less angry I will get. Secondary antidotes like forgiveness and compassion will also aid in the process.

This is similar to what Rudyard Kipling suggests in his famous poem, IF:
“If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!”

It’s like a video game.
The more often my character gets angry, it’s a sign that the patience fuel tank is empty. My goal is to get enough experience points to grow my patience meter as much as possible.

Resources:
Metaphysical causes of illnesses – Louise Hay
Anger & its antidotes – buddhist views
Dalai Lama also gets angry
IF – Rudyard Kipling, full poem

Being racist is natural

August 24, 2015

Whenever I hear about a leaked audio/email of a famous person being racist or sexist or whatever-ist, I become outraged.

How could they??!

Don’t they know it’s 2015 and things have changed??
Let’s kill all the racists and maintain a utopia.

Then I remember that I’m also every kind of bad thing.
Racist, sexist, homophobic, bigot, selfish, arrogant, stingy, inconsiderate, …

In general, I’m wired to think I’m the best and every other thing is below me. There’s a part of my brain that operates this way.

I’ve also said every word in the language too. Trust me.
N word. F word. C word. B word. And yes, even Z words.
What kinda life would it be to have words we are not allowed to say?? – thinks my mind.

Even if I don’t say it out loud, every single “bad word” floats around in my mind.

It’s a minefield in there. Full of static.
Like a raging sea.
The winds are strong. The waves crashing about.
And it will toss any boat over with ease.
Unless I manually calm the waves down with meditation and loving thoughts, it will be a rough day in there.

Buddhists talk about how we have seeds of love and hate inside of us.
It’s our daily job to water only the seeds we want to grow and starve the seeds we do not want.

The weeds will grow in our garden easily and effortlessly.
It takes effort to grow a rose bush.

Native Americans use the analogy of two wolves in our mind.
The good wolf. And the bad wolf.
Which one will we feed today?

From my own experience, I’ve noticed that anger, hatred, racism never go away.
It’s there.
Waiting to be fed.

And some days I become too self-absorbed and accidentally get caught up in the negative habits.
Then I have to reset. Take a nap. Wake up. Journal.
And do my practices to get back on track.

IT’S A DAILY JOB FOR ME TO TRY TO BE LOVING, KIND, COMPASSIONATE, GENEROUS.

It takes MF-word effort.

So I’ve learned to become more compassionate towards others who get caught up by the bad wolf.

I’ve been there and done that.

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I tell the story of how I originally stumbled onto Eden Energy Medicine.

Fast forward to me using her energy medicine kit, with arm movements, massaging certain parts of the body, and yes, spinning a crystal on my chakras and meridians.

This had an amazing effect on me, asap.
I think out of all the bodywork techniques (reiki, eft, reconnective healing, massage, acupuncture, acupressure, qigong, etc), Eden Energy might be the best.

The rest of the story is about how I used the positive momentum to grocery shop at a new store (normally this would be a huge anxiety provoking incident). But this time I used a heart rate monitor and kept my beats per minute in the calm zone.

Ended up with an amazing grocery shopping experience, even high-fived the store manager and got a free reusable grocery bag.

Postscript Update:
So I ended up working out twice the day I recorded this podcast.
And have been working out everyday since. This is huge for me.
Been eating super clean paleo. Body feels tremendous.
Mood, focus, energy, confidence, etc all have been super high.
EEM, chakras, meridians, and spinning crystals are the real deal!

Resources:
1. Eden Energy Medicine Kit (amazon)
I prefer this kit over her book.

2a. 5 minute daily energy routine (video)
2b. PDF of 5 min daily energy routine
this is what i use

3. Introduction to energy medicine (video)

4. The Power of Full Engagement by Tony Schwartz
talks heart rate management for optimal performance

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1. Traits of an Empath

2. If you’re an empath, learn everything you can from Dr. Judith Orloff.
She’s a master guide.

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I honestly can’t tell if this audio is good or not.

I listened to it a bunch of times and tried editing out all the filler words… until I went crazy. Why is it so hard to listen to your own voice? But here it is.

What I was trying to say is that you will for sure have shite days.
No matter what.

And this is good news.
Because it won’t catch you off guard, like it did for me this week.

It’s like Warren Buffett says about the stock market.
Mentally prepare yourself that 2-3 out of every 10yrs, on average, will be bad.
20-30% will be terrible investing years.
Then you will not panic when that happens.

Ted Williams’ best year ever was in 1941 when batted 0.406.
His career average over 19years was 0.344.
He swung and missed 65.6% of the time.

Michael Jordan’s best year of shooting was 0.539 in 1991.
And his career average over 15yrs was .497.
So he missed 50.3% of the time.

Let’s compare that to how many good days we will have per week.
If it were like the stock market, expect to have 1.4 to 2.1 bad days per week.
If we’re Ted Williams, expect to have 4.6 bad days.
And if we’re MJ, 3.5 bad days.

Bottom line.
Expect to have 1-5 bad days per week, on average.
Hopefully it will be on the lower end of the scale but bad days will happen.

And lastly, I talk about finally understanding what Abraham Hicks has been talking about, after 7yrs of listening and reading their lessons.

Guaranteed way to feel better no matter how terrible you feel.

Moving up the emotional guidance scale.

Resources:
1. (pdf) Abe Hicks emotional guidance scale & 22 processes to help you feel better

2. The Vortex book
There is a chapter where they talk about a guaranteed way to feel good.

The process is like this:
-Bed time: appreciate all the things you can around you (ie: comfy bed), think as good thoughts as you can, and intend that you will sleep deeply and wake up refreshed.

-Wake up: spend 5mins in bed thinking good thoughts and appreciating as much good things as you can. This sets up the day on a good note

Focus wheel: do a couple of focus wheels to clean up any resistance thoughts you have

-Pump up the juices by doing a list of positive aspects on that same topic

-Super charge it more by doing a rampage of appreciation on that same topic
That’s pretty much it.

And as you go about your day and something resistant happens, write it down and work on it for tomorrows focus wheel.

3. It’s also similar to what Louise Hay does during her day to feel good (as mentioned in her book).
Wake up appreciating
Eat healthy light food
Mirror affirmations
Think positive thoughts
Light exercise
Write affirmations 10-20 times
Relaxation & meditation
Go to sleep appreciating